I came to college for my MRS (not my MS!)
A recent rise in male joblessness has created a worldwide disturbance in the dating market, according to Kate Bolick’s recent article in The Atlantic, entitled “All the Single Ladies.” The pool of marriageable men is overflowing with deadbeats and players. The evolution of the dating scene is a hot topic. When time is of the essence, and marriage o’clock is ticking, the results are noteworthy. More than ever, women are getting married later on, or not at all.
Men are becoming inferior to women in terms of income, educational achievement, and employment prospects. This, says Bolick, has wreaked havoc on traditional marriage and family structures. So, as the eligible New York City bachelor becomes an endangered species, women are turning into the men they would like to marry. Beyonce’s lyrics are more than just praises of girl power; they are facts: girls actually do run the world.
As a woman, I am obviously all for Women’s Rights and gender equality. But, as a woman, I’m also deeply concerned over the decreasing number of suitable bachelors. Granted, the lone spinster is aggregating respect, but I could not, in good conscience, convince my grandmother that this is my chosen path.
In a country that is 50.8 percent female and 49.2 percent male, Mr. Right must be out there. But on the college campuses, which are 57 percent female and 43 percent male, Mr. Right is harder to find than Waldo. This ratio is even more distorted on the Barnard and Columbia campus given that Barnard is, in traditional terms, 100 percent female.
The Guttentag-Secord theory, as explained by Bolick, holds that members of the gender in shorter supply are less dependent on their partners, because they have a greater number of alternative relationships available to them. It provides a shred of hope for any single, heterosexual girl entering the college dating scene. However, in 1988, the theory was put to test by sociologists Scott J. Smith and Katherine Trent, who found that there are radical distinctions among genders.
In low-sex-ratio societies, where women outnumber men, women should have both the social and sexual advantage. Instead, when among a surplus of women, men tend to become more promiscuous and less committal. Apparently, if I want any sort of male attention, not only do I have to start putting out more, but I also have to lower my expectations.
So when are transfer applications due again? After all, I came to college to get my MRS and to meet the future doctor of General Hospital and live happily ever after. Who needs an MS then? Maybe I’m still holding on to my childhood fairy-tales too strongly. If that’s the case, my 20s and 30s (and apparently 40s and 50s) are going to be a rude awakening.
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