Posts Tagged ‘advice’
C.U. in Bed
“I’ve never orgasmed before.”
“What is pegging? How does one safely do pegging?”
“Nobody thinks I’m a lesbian because I’m not butch. How can I attract other lesbians when I look so feminine?”
“I don’t know how to please my partner—he doesn’t tell me what to do. I’m at a loss.”
We’ve all had questions about sex. We’ve all had concerns or fears when it comes to sex. But not all of us have had an outlet to ask those questions, free of judgment, and free of fear.
And that’s why I’m starting this weekly advice column, C.U. in Bed.
Is she into you?
In this week’s Just Ask Sara, I answer my first set of questions on dancing, UFOs, friends with benefits, and someone who has inspired me to write She’s Just Not That Into You.
In this day and age of high resolution 1080p video recording on our phones and digital cameras, why are UFO videos still grainy and blurry?
–PastInsidePresent
Dearest PastInsidePresent,
Because Bigfoot has very shaky hands and the iPhone 5 is very large, so it is difficult for him/her to hold it still enough to get a good shot. Bigfoot also has a real fondness for Instagram so that sometimes distorts the photos.
So I currently have a fuck buddy (excuse my language) who’s amazing, but last night a gorgeous (different) girl offered a similar relationship. Is it immoral to have two sex buddies?
–I am who I am
Just ask Sara: Tell me all your secrets
As I sat at Koronet, texting my friend about girl problems, and overhearing a woman on the phone talking about a guy she was sort of seeing and debating whether he was worth keeping (“He’s not the sharpest tool in the shed, but he’s good with his hands…Yeah, he’s an electrician…”), I realized that it was time for Just Ask Emily to be succeeded.
I can’t promise that my advice will change your life or that you won’t reject it immediately, but hey! You’ll get to complain about your problems, and get featured on a blog! So ask me about anything: the roommate you think about locking in the closet, the friend with major stank, or the guy you keep asking to borrow pens from who just doesn’t seem to be getting the hint.
You can submit your questions anonymously via this Google Doc that only I will end up seeing.
I can’t wait to hear from all of you and start my reign as the Oprah of Columbia! Maybe next I’ll start a book club…
Just Ask Emily: One final piece of advice
I was thinking about what advice I should give in this, my last advice column ever (unless, like, Dear Prudence mysteriously vanishes and everyone’s like, “Quick, we’d better get a recent college graduate with minimal blogging and very little life experience!”). And so I was thinking back over the questions that were submitted over the course of the past year. And I realized that the best piece of advice that I can give you—or that anyone can give anyone, for that matter—doesn’t even come from me. More »
Just Ask Emily: I mention not one but two philosophers in this post
In this week’s installment of Just Ask Emily, a reader can’t tell right from wrong.
Hey, Emily!
I’m a pretty social person who goes to parties and has fun with friends. But I’ve never had a girlfriend/boyfriend or been in a situation that would lend itself to intimacy in any way. Am I doing college wrong?
From,
Pure and Simple More »
Just Ask Emily: Missed Connections
After turning her column over to Lanbo for April 1st, Emily is back. She’s glad you all enjoyed the guest blogger (less glad that some of you strongly preferred him to her even though she’s been slaving away over a hot laptop churning out advice like butter for you all year, but she digresses), and reminds you that you can submit questions, comments, concerns, and queries right here. And now, in this weeks’ installment of Just Ask Emily, one reader looks for meaningful relationships with professors, and one looks for a meaningful relationship of another kind.
Dear Emily,
How do I make more meaningful connections with my professors?
Sincerely,
Teacher’s Would-Be Pet More »
Just Ask Emily: And now, some unsolicited advice to the Class of 2016
Dear Class of 2016,
First of all, congratulations and welcome to Columbia! There are, I am sure, all sorts of statistics and testimonies that say that you’re the strongest class yet (and that I would not get in today if I had to compete with you, but I digress).
I’m graduating in a matter of weeks, so I won’t actually get to meet any of you (my suite may be hosting a couple of you for days on campus, but you guys know what I mean). But, since I’m (among other things, I swear) the advice columnist here on Spectrum, I thought I’d give you a word or two of wisdom before I left.
I thought all day about what those words should say. There’s plenty that I could tell you. I could tell you not to worry that you will hate college if you don’t like Orientation (which was, to this day, the worst week of my college career).
I could tell you that you should not mistake lack of knowledge with want of intelligence. I could tell you what to eat in John Jay Dining Hall. But none of that would mean anything to you just yet. So here is something that hopefully will: More »
Just Ask Emily: What, me worry?
As always, we begin by reminding you that you can submit your questions, comments, concerns and queries to Emily right here. And now, in this week’s installment of Just Ask Emily, a reader wants to know about Emily’s present thoughts on the future.
Dear Emily,
The description next to your face below tells me that you’re graduating. What scares you the most about the future and how do you manage it?
Sincerely,
Curious Columbian More »
Just Ask Emily: Things you did not need to just ask Emily
Welcome back from spring break! As always, we begin by reminding you that you (and you! and you!) can submit your questions, comments, concerns, and queries right here. And now, in this week’s installment of Just Ask Emily, in the spirit of spring, Emily has decided to assure you that she really has thought up answers to all of your questions this semester. Yes. All of them.
Dear Emily,
Why are you doing this?
Sincerely,
Existential Questioner More »
Just Ask Emily: More than a feeling
Before we begin, we’d like to remind you to submit your questions, comments, concerns, and queries right here. And now: in this week’s installment of Just Ask Emily, our readers just have a lot of feelings.
Dear Emily,
So there’s this girl (isn’t there always?). Long story short, we were good friends, then we were friends with benefits, then it all fell apart. We both want to be friends again, but how do I get over her? We’re in a lot of the same classes and activities, so it would be awkward to stop seeing her for a while, but I’m not sure how to get over her while in continued contact. And I really do want to be her friend.
Sincerely,
Just Friends More »