Is she into you?
In this week’s Just Ask Sara, I answer my first set of questions on dancing, UFOs, friends with benefits, and someone who has inspired me to write She’s Just Not That Into You.
In this day and age of high resolution 1080p video recording on our phones and digital cameras, why are UFO videos still grainy and blurry?
–PastInsidePresent
Dearest PastInsidePresent,
Because Bigfoot has very shaky hands and the iPhone 5 is very large, so it is difficult for him/her to hold it still enough to get a good shot. Bigfoot also has a real fondness for Instagram so that sometimes distorts the photos.
So I currently have a fuck buddy (excuse my language) who’s amazing, but last night a gorgeous (different) girl offered a similar relationship. Is it immoral to have two sex buddies?
–I am who I am
Dearest I am who I am,
Maybe. Have either of these girls asked you to snuggle? Been intrusive, asking for personal information like your name? Tried to plan an actual date before 2 a.m.?
These may be signs that she kinda likes you, in which case you are a cruel soul who is not only making one girl miserable, but all of her friends annoyed about having to read your text conversations. If not, and they also just want to use you for your body, then go ahead!
Sara, can you teach me how to dougie?
–no moves
Dearest no moves,
No. Twerkin’ is now what gets the girls goin’ crazy. I offer twerkin’ tutorin’, but it may be out of your price range so this video of twerkin’ to “Holocene” by Bon Iver should get you started.
Sara,
At Mel’s, I reconnected with a girl who had been in one of my classes freshman year. We talked for a while and then she gave me her number. A few days later, I called her and asked her out. She said she wanted to go out on Thursday. So Thursday comes, and I haven’t heard from her. I call her, leave a message, no response. Haven’t heard from her since.Is this just her way of saying she changed her mind? Should I try calling her again to see what’s up, or is that just wishful thinking?
–Stood Up
Dearest Stood Up,
Last weekend I too reconnected with an old friend—is that you Bigga?! Just kidding (who goes to Mel’s?!).
Dating is complicated: It’s all about reaching that sweet spot between seeming too disinterested and way too interested. You’ve done your job without making it seem like she’s the only girl in the world (sorry, Rihanna), and I don’t think anything else you do will change the outcome.
I think the best option might be to stop now before you have to face the pain of a flat-out rejection. She may like you, but in previous experience, you don’t ignore someone’s calls if you’re really interested, especially when nobody at Columbia ever calls.
So, if she texts/calls/Facebooks/telepathically messages you next weekend, great, and if not, you’re better off. Head to Mel’s and take it as an opportunity to hook up with someone better.
If you need advice, submit your question to the Google Doc anonymously.
“If not, and they also just want to use you for your body, then go ahead!”
I’m all for sex, but completely divorcing it from emotion is just…wrong.
Different strokes for different folks!
You don’t have to fall in love with someone to have sex with them. Please.
Tamkin eat your heart out, this is hilarious. Gif at the end really topped it off
Emily and Sara have two extremely different perspectives on advice-giving, which are equally good in their own ways.
No but seriously, Tamkin was great, just too serious for me
ugh sara why do you never return my calls slash twerk with me
Love these questions
great advice sara!!!! also to the last guy you sound really nice, “especially when nobody at Columbia ever calls.” this is so true so you can def do better! (unless something super crazy personal happened and she has a good excuse)
If no one ever calls, then why do girls give out their numbers?
Texting, duh
Do girls actually prefer calling to texting?!
if they’re not into you, then yes.
to be fair i am more of a fan of texting but if we’re supposed to go somewhere in two minutes then a call would probably be easier, yes.
(girls at Columbia) + (phone number) + (Implicit interest) = (Waste of time) + (Effort)
http://bit.ly/V4o8Sw
lol. What does this even mean? Are we supposed to search Reddit (and, presumably, every other Internet discussion forum) for each question to make sure that it’s original? Regardless of whether it’s recycled, it’s clearly a joke, so who cares?
Also unrelated but I’m shortening the link to a bit.ly link because we have problems with long links breaking the comments. We’re working on fixing it but for now just making the switch. Thanks!